The Bro

Having the capacity to love another is one of life’s treasures. My wife is my best friend and partner who I share this life with. There are however, deep needs in a man’s life, that can never be met by the love of a woman.
Proverbs 18:24
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Jonathan and David had a special relationship described in Samuel 18:1
“As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
No, I don’t believe for a minute that they were queer. They just had a special bond of love for each other.
I have a few men who I have close relationships with, and who I can share my heart with. These men are peers. We we don’t try to fix each other, we are just a listening ear, expressing love, acceptance, and care for each other. I appreciate the ability to say “I love you,” without them thinking that I’m gay or weird.
Saying I love you to a friend, is difficult to say, the words get choked up on the way out. It doesn’t come natural for me as we never used those words in our family when I was growing up. My Chinese friends tell me that it’s almost never said in their culture, they just express their love in what they do.
It’s a real privilege to have close friends that I know I can count on. They’ll cover my back when I’m in trouble. They encourage me when I’m down and rejoice with me in my triumphs. They’re a sounding board for my flakey ideas. Their wounds of correction are easier to bare because I’m confident in their care for me. Most men go through life without really close friends, just acquaintances. I’d trade a hundred casual friends for one really close bro.

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