Seize The Moment

It’s popular notion that in order to truly achieve happiness, one must live each day at a time, seizing the moment. This term, once popularized by Robin Williams, didn’t serve him very well, nor has it worked for countless others who adopted this philosophy. It spawns an “eat, drink, for tomorrow we die” mentality. This fatalistic attitude causes much hopeless and despair. Learning contentment in the mundane is replaced by a never satisfied quest for newer and more exciting thrills. Dissatisfaction is increased in grey and ordinary pursuits such as marriage, and work.
It’s not possible that we can all achieve greatness. For every great person, there are scores of not so great people, operating at a more pedestrian pace. If everyone was great, then nobody would be great. The lure of greatness is closely associated with our vanity and pride, whereas true greatness comes to the truly humble in heart.
Marriage is for those who have settled down to one partner, and committed themselves to working on that relationship through thick and thin. Those who are always seeking bigger and better thrills, and greener grass, don’t stay married.
Work is a gift of God, but it often seems like a pointless grind as we slog away day after day. We tend to view work as a necessary evil to be avoided at all costs. The union mentality of “working for the weekend,” stifles creativity and job satisfaction. Next door to my son’s store is a sheet metal shop. Their workers are the most miserable bunch of guys who treat their job like a prison sentence. In contrast, most of my son’s workers actually enjoy their work. His wages are substantially lower yet job satisfaction is noticeably higher. Money is obviously not a huge factor.
Finding fulfillment in the ordinary things of life is possible when we realize that our every breath is a gift from God. To lead a life that’s pleasing to Him, to be a willing servant to The Lord of the universe, this is far more fulfilling than any earthly pursuit.
True satisfaction in life does not come from serving ourselves, but by serving others and ultimately serving God and valuing what He’s given us to do.

The Bro

Having the capacity to love another is one of life’s treasures. My wife is my best friend and partner who I share this life with. There are however, deep needs in a man’s life, that can never be met by the love of a woman.
Proverbs 18:24
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Jonathan and David had a special relationship described in Samuel 18:1
“As soon as he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
No, I don’t believe for a minute that they were queer. They just had a special bond of love for each other.
I have a few men who I have close relationships with, and who I can share my heart with. These men are peers. We we don’t try to fix each other, we are just a listening ear, expressing love, acceptance, and care for each other. I appreciate the ability to say “I love you,” without them thinking that I’m gay or weird.
Saying I love you to a friend, is difficult to say, the words get choked up on the way out. It doesn’t come natural for me as we never used those words in our family when I was growing up. My Chinese friends tell me that it’s almost never said in their culture, they just express their love in what they do.
It’s a real privilege to have close friends that I know I can count on. They’ll cover my back when I’m in trouble. They encourage me when I’m down and rejoice with me in my triumphs. They’re a sounding board for my flakey ideas. Their wounds of correction are easier to bare because I’m confident in their care for me. Most men go through life without really close friends, just acquaintances. I’d trade a hundred casual friends for one really close bro.

The Folly Of Pluralism

I was traveling on the ferry to our farm when I struck up a conversation with a chatty woman. She was a clinical psychiatric nurse who had lots of experience with addiction counseling. She asked what we were going to do on the farm, so I told her about my son’s vision to do drug & alcohol recovery through farming. She told me about her experience with AA, and NA where they come to the place where they realize they cannot conquer their life’s demons, and need a higher power.
I said “I we were involved with ‘Celebrate Recovery,’ where they put a name to the higher power.”
She replied, “Oh you can’t do that, as long as the person turns to some form of higher power, it’s all good.”
“Sure I can, I’d like to think my team’s better than the alternative.”
She wouldn’t let it go. She had to let me know how the only correct way to think was pluralistically. Gosh, the mind police have gotten to her. If every way is right, then none of them are right. If there are no absolutes, then there is no right and no wrong. To her, the only right is that everyone is right. Unless of course you believe you are right, then you are wrong. Confused?
Pluralism is a delusion that Jesus confronted head on when He said “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6) Ecumenicalism is wonderful until it includes those who don’t believe on the lordship of Christ, then it’s diabolical. Jesus discounted for all time any belief system that was not exclusive to him. This “my way or the highway” attitude is anathema to the pluralists. They are tolerant only to those who are tolerant as they are. To the exclusive, they are completely intolerant.
Do not be confused about this issue. A pluralist mindset is totally at odds with the gospel of Jesus Christ.

“It is easy to be tolerant of the principles of other people if you have none of your own.” Herbert Samuel.