Fatherhood

listened to a Focus on the Family program about what people would liked to have said to their deceased fathers. Apparently the volume of response was greater than any program they had ever run. They had a huge outpouring of emotional regret from people who would give anything to be able to go back and make things right and tell their dads how much they loved them. Something they couldn’t muster the courage to do while they were alive.
I still feel pain when I think about one of my own spiritual fathers who passed away many years ago. Norm was a prince of a man, always encouraging and uplifting to be around. He never failed to point me to my Heavenly Father when I shared my heart with him. He taught me to man up and not be a people pleaser. He gave me confidence in a way that no one else could. I am eternally grateful for his influence on my life.
There is a tremendous void of real spiritual fatherhood in our culture. We have more than enough leaders, teachers and guides, but few fathers.
It seems that men are more concerned about their own satisfaction in life than reaching out to others. Fathering takes courage and standing up for principles, rather than following the crowd. Being willing to swallow my pride and to say I’m sorry, I was wrong rather than insisting I’m right, even though I might have been. Putting away childish hobbies, toys and games that are a thief of time. Cleaning up my act and making it my foremost desire to live a holy life so I can be that man who younger men look up to and want to imitate. Loving one woman passionately with a covenant that includes my eyes even when nobody’s looking.
Is it possible that we could be that father to others? Does your heart long, as mine does, to see young men come to maturity and take their responsibility more seriously. I can’t think of anything that gives me more fulfillment than being able to encourage young guys and point them to Jesus.
In the Old Testament there are numerous references to the fatherless, and that God commends a special blessing to those that show them mercy. It’s natural for a man to father his own, but it takes a special person to father another’s. To be a father is the surely the most noble of a man’s aspirations.
It’s not for the feeble or for the faint of heart, but for the strong and courageous.

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